JUST JANE: TODAY OUR AGONY AUNT JANE O'GORMAN IS DEALING WITH A NEW ISSUE FROM A DAILY STAR READER WHO FACES PLEASURE AND PAIN IN THE NAME OF LOVE 09:17, 31 May 2025 JUST JANE BY JANE

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thrilled when my boss recently gave me an unexpected £500 bonus. I suggested buying new carpets, but she shot me down with details of events that offer naked fire shows, erotic performers

and naughty playrooms. Most of all she likes the idea of ‘wax drip’ where melted wax is dripped onto the bare body. Which, she informs me, is highly sensual and perfectly safe. Right. On top

of the tickets, she wants six-inch shoes and frilly undies. What can I say? _JANE SAYS: YOU’VE GOT A TONGUE IN YOUR HEAD. YOU ARE ENTITLED TO ASK MORE QUESTIONS AND, OF COURSE, SAY ‘NO’._

_THE FACT IS THAT PROFESSIONALLY ORGANISED SEXUAL PARTIES OFFERING SWINGING, VOYEURISM AND ADULT TOYS AREN’T FOR EVERYONE. YOUR GIRL MIGHT BE CURIOUS AND KEEN TO PUSH BACK SEXUAL BOUNDARIES,

BUT YOU CANNOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE LED BY THE NOSE. IF ‘WAX PLAY’ ISN’T FOR YOU, THEN STICK UP FOR YOURSELF._ _ULTIMATELY, YOU NEED TO FIND OUT IF THIS IDEA IS A DEAL/RELATIONSHIP BREAKER

AS FAR AS YOUR GIRL IS CONCERNED. IS SHE DETERMINED TO GO DOWN THIS ROUTE WITH – OR WITHOUT YOU? IS SHE PREPARED TO COMPROMISE WITH ALTERNATIVE PLANS THAT YOU ARE COMFORTABLE WITH? DISCUSS._

'I CHEATED SO I MUST PAY' My girlfriend wants £1,000 deposited in her account because I cheated on her. This is nuts. She blasts that I have to pay – and it has to hurt - or I’ll

never take her seriously again. Back in February I did a stupid thing; I conducted a booze-driven, sexual affair with a colleague, which is now completely over. However, my girlfriend has

announced that my indiscretion now means that she’s entitled to financial compensation. How do I make her see that she is being ridiculous? _JANE SAYS: CLEARLY YOUR GIRL IS FEELING HURT AND

DISAPPOINTED. A COUPLE OF MONTHS AGO YOU CHOSE TO CONDUCT A SEXUAL FLING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN. PRESUMABLY YOU LIED AND SPENT MONEY BEHIND YOUR PARTNER’S BACK AND NOW SHE’S SMARTING._ _SIT HER

DOWN AND EXPLAIN THAT YOU UNDERSTAND HER ANGER AND FRUSTRATION BUT GIVING HER A LARGE SUM OF CASH ISN’T GOING TO SOLVE ANYTHING; IT’S ONLY GOING TO PUSH YOU INTO DEBT._ _APOLOGISE WITH ALL

YOUR MIGHT AND ASK FOR A FRESH START. SADLY, IF SHE’S NOT WILLING TO BUDGE, THEN MAYBE YOU BOTH NEED TO ACCEPT THAT YOU’RE NEVER GOING TO GET PAST YOUR INITIAL BETRAYAL. IS BOOZE A PROBLEM

FOR YOU? WHY DID YOU CHEAT IN THE FIRST PLACE?_ 'SHE DODGES PERSONAL QUESTIONS' In the six years I’ve known her my girlfriend she has never talked about her parents, childhood or

schools. In the early days she dodged my questions or changed the subject, so I no longer quiz her. Don’t you think it’s odd that I know so little about her? Should I _demand_ some answers?

_JANE SAYS: PICK YOUR MOMENT AND TALK TO HER ABOUT HOW PUZZLED YOU ARE. POINT OUT THAT IT’S WEIRD BEING KEPT IN THE DARK WHEN THERE’S SO MUCH ABOUT HER YOU STILL DON’T KNOW._ Article

continues below _IF SHE STILL REFUSES TO OPEN UP, THEN STEP BACK. IS WHAT YOU HAVE TOGETHER GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU? CAN YOU CONTINUE WITH HER LONG TERM? SADLY, I SUSPECT, SHE WAS BADLY LET DOWN

AS A CHILD. PATIENCE MIGHT BE YOUR ONLY OPTION._