According to a recent Wall Street Journal article, some communities in the Philippines consider gossiping so odious that they’ve outright banned it. But aside from the difficulty of

enforcing this sort of ordinance, should gossip really get such a bad rap? Yes, in its rawest form, gossip is a strategy used by individuals to further their own reputations and interests at

the expense of others. Studies that I have conducted confirm that gossip can be used in cruel ways for selfish purposes. At the same time, how many can walk away from a juicy story about

one of their acquaintances and keep it to themselves? Surely, each of us has had firsthand experience with the difficulty of keeping spectacular news about someone else a secret. When

find themselves on the outside looking in. AS SOCIAL CREATURES, WE’RE HARDWIRED TO GOSSIP Like it or not, we are the descendants of busybodies. Evolutionary psychologists believe that our

preoccupation with the lives of others is a byproduct of a prehistoric brain. According to scientists, because our prehistoric ancestors lived in relatively small groups, they knew one

another intimately. In order to ward off enemies and survive in their harsh natural environment, our ancestors needed to cooperate with in-group members. But they also recognized that these

same in-group members were their main competitors for mates and limited resources. Living under such conditions, our ancestors faced a number of adaptive social problems: who’s reliable and

trustworthy? Who’s a cheater? Who would make the best mate? How can friendships, alliances and family obligations be balanced? In this sort of environment, an intense interest in the private

dealings of other people would have certainly been handy – and strongly favored by natural selection. People who were the best at harnessing their social intelligence to interpret, predict

– and influence – the behavior of others became more successful than those who were not. The genes of those individuals were passed along from one generation to the next. AVOIDING GOSSIP: A

ONE-WAY TICKET TO SOCIAL ISOLATION Today, good gossipers are influential and popular members of their social groups. Sharing secrets is one way people bond, and sharing gossip with another

person is a sign of deep trust: you’re signaling that you believe that the person will not use this sensitive information against you. Therefore, someone skillful at gossip will have a good

rapport with a large network of people. At the same time, they’ll be discreetly knowledgeable about what’s going on throughout the group. On the other hand, someone who is _not_ part of,

say, the office gossip network is an outsider – someone neither trusted nor accepted by the group. Presenting yourself as a self-righteous soul who refuses to participate in gossip will

ultimately end up being nothing more than a ticket to social isolation. In the workplace, studies have shown that harmless gossiping with one’s colleagues can build group cohesiveness and

boost morale. Gossip also helps to socialize newcomers into groups by resolving ambiguity about group norms and values. In other words, listening to the judgments that people make about the

behavior of others helps the newbie figure out what’s acceptable and what isn’t. FEAR OF WHISPERS KEEPS US IN CHECK On the flip side, the awareness that _others_ are likely talking about us

can keep us in line. Among a group of friends or coworkers, the threat of becoming the target of gossip can actually be a positive force: it can deter “free-riders” and cheaters who might be

tempted slack off or take advantage of others. Biologist Robert Trivers has discussed the evolutionary importance of detecting _gross cheaters_ (those who fail to reciprocate altruistic

acts) and _subtle cheaters_ (those who reciprocate but give much less than they get). Gossip can actually shame these free riders, reining them in. Studies of California cattle ranchers,

Maine lobster fishers and college rowing teams confirm that gossip is used in a variety of settings to hold individuals accountable. In each of these groups, individuals who violated

expectations about sharing resources or meeting responsibilities became targets of gossip and ostracism. This, in turn, pressured them to become better members of the group. For example,

lobstermen who didn’t respect well-established group norms about when and how lobsters could be harvested were quickly exposed by their colleagues. Their fellow lobstermen temporarily

shunned them and, for a while, refused to work with them. CELEBRITY GOSSIP ACTUALLY HELPS US IN MYRIAD WAYS Belgian psychologist Charlotte de Backer makes a distinction between _strategy

learning gossip_ and _reputation gossip_. When gossip is about a particular individual, we’re usually interested in it only if we know that person. However, some gossip is interesting no

matter whom it’s about. This sort of gossip can involve stories about life-or-death situations or remarkable feats. We pay attention to them because we may be able to learn strategies that

we can apply to our own lives. Indeed, de Backer discovered that our interest in celebrities may feed off of this thirst for learning life strategies. For better or for worse, we look to

celebrities in the same way that our ancestors looked to role models within their tribes for guidance. At its core, our fixation on celebrities is reflective of an innate interest in the

lives of other people. From an evolutionary standpoint, “celebrity” is a recent phenomenon, due primarily to the explosion of mass media in the 20th century. Our ancestors, on the other

hand, found social importance in the intimate details of _everyone_‘s private life, since everyone in their small social world mattered. But anthropologist Jerome Barkow has pointed out that

evolution did not prepare us to distinguish among those members of our community who have a genuine effect on us, and those who exist in the images, movies and songs that suffuse our daily

lives. From TMZ to US Weekly, the media fuels gossip mills that mimic those of our workplaces and friend groups. In a way, our brains are tricked into feeling an intense familiarity with

these famous people – which hoodwinks us into wanting to know even _more_ about them. After all, anyone whom we see _that_ often and know _that_ much about _must_ be socially important to

us. Because of the familiarity we feel with celebrities, they can serve an important social function: they may be the only “friends” we have in common with new neighbors and coworkers.

They’re shared cultural touchstones that facilitate the types of informal interactions that help people become comfortable in new surroundings. Keeping up with the lives of actors,

politicians and athletes can make a person more socially adept during interactions with strangers and even offer inroads into new relationships. The bottom line is that we need to rethink

the role of gossip in everyday life; there’s no need to shy away from it or to be ashamed of it. Successful gossiping entails being a good team player and sharing key information with others

in ways that won’t be perceived as self-serving. It’s about knowing when it’s appropriate to talk, and when it’s probably best to keep your mouth shut. _This is an updated version of an

article originally published on Jan. 20, 2016._