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Golfer Tiger Woods wanted to see his ex-wife’s diaries and sneaked into her home. Folks get candid on getting possessive about the ‘ex’... It can be quite uncomfortable to find ourselves
incapable of shrugging off the emotional baggage of our inert and expired relationships, even when we most want to. Logics and rationales seem to become defunct; sheer jealousy takes into
custody all judicious reasons and justifications, leading us into doing the most embarrassing things perhaps. Golfer Tiger Woods is the recent victim of this malaise. Woods is apparently
still too “possessive” about his ex wife Elin Nordegren. He, allegedly, sneaked into Elin’s Florida home, by managing some fast-talking with the household help and making excuses that their
kids had left behind few things which he had to pick up, only to ransack her drawers and cupboards searching desperately for her personal diaries. Psychologist Dr. Seema Hingorrany
elaborates on this “unhealthy phenomenon”. “Break-ups are unpredictable and sudden, hence it hits one hard.” While some know how to take it in their stride, others fail to help themselves,
and wallow in self-pity. This leads to an overdrive of jealousy. “Divert your attention, spend time with family and friends, meet new people, socialise, and most importantly do not rush to
jump into another relationship,” suggests Seema. Film actor Payal Rohatgi admits that one is bound to get inquisitive about the life of his/her ex. “You’ve shared your life with him, hence
there certainly are moments of jealousy and hurt, which are bound to haunt you.” Though being an actor, she feels, helps her programme her mind and think of the relationship as a “part of
the long live film”. “I’m a strong cookie,” she quickly adds, “and there is always a thrill attached with the prospect of finding someone new.” Director Vikram Bhatt agrees. “Yes, you do get
possessive thinking she was your girl once but you need to stop obsessing over it. I don’t think I have been possessive in any of my relationships, even though I give my best to it,” he
adds. “Once a relationship is over, I am out of that person’s life. I just become non-committal and indifferent,” says actor Mrinalini Sharma who asserts that she has never been possessive
of any of her exes. Actor Karan Singh Grover too concedes that he isn’t too possessive by nature. “I don’t like keeping baggage with me. If a relationship doesn’t work out then I think it’s
something that is best forgotten, the person as well as the relationship,” says Karan.