As the father of two biological children and one adoptive child, the man in this video has received an array of odd questions about his family. “Is that your real daughter?” “Where did you

get her from?” “Did you get to pick out the kid that you wanted?” While this dad assumes these queries about his children are well-meaning, the delivery … could be better. That’s why he is

instructing the Internet on one simple rule about talking to adoptive families: “Before you say it, ask yourself this question: ‘Would I say it about a boob job?'” the father advises.

Providing a few amusing examples of how his theory works, this proud papa shows how the right phrasing can make all the difference. Help prevent awkward conversations. Watch the video above